K. has a bad boyfriend.
He may not be a bad guy (tho’ I don’t know if he’s a good guy. . . ), but he is a bad boyfriend.
K. knows this—she’s the one who gave C. and me the lowdown on him—but for a variety of reasons is not ready to end the relationship once and for all.
C. and I had our own variety of reasons of why she should end it, and we tag-teamed our explication of why the relationship needed to end now, yesterday, six months ago. He didn’t deserve her, C. and I agreed, and she should be with someone who really appreciated what a treasure she was.
Did I mention we had all been drinking?
Anyway, I don’t think anything C. or I said to here will matter one whit, and, honestly, that’s as it should be.
It was a kind of friendship ritual we went through: she got to pour out her uncertainties, we got to affirm that she was terrific, and the evening ended with orations on What Should Be and kisses. It was more about each and all of us than anything having to do with the boyfriend.
No, as the one who has to live with—or without—her boyfriend, it is left to K. to decide where and how and if he fits in her life. It’s her call, not ours.
But letting her know that we do think she’s terrific, well, yes, that we could do.